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Friendship is a difficult thing between a man and a woman, especially if they share a past.

I agree. Let's start with the first part, that a friendship is a difficult thing. I have many close male friends. Actually, these relations are very easy friendships since guys don't expect much. You can call them up any time and start talking as if you'd been in touch all this time. Simply put, there is usually less of a hassle. I have never felt as if I was going to cross the line with any of my male friends, however, I can't deny feeling it coming the other way. I'd imagine keeping the friendship at a certain level is more difficult for the guy.

Aaa, but about the people you have been involved with. Maybe I am not a good example, I'll try not to think about myself. I have seen people act as if everything is fine as if they are friends, but there is always that little twitch in their words or in their looks.

It wasn't until recently that I thought you could never have a normal relation with someone who'd been special to you for some time. It seemed as if the change in the form of the relationship confused everyone. I had the feeling that years can go by and leave people trying to figure out the boundaries of a past relationship. That has changed, at least a little, a least to the extent that I believe if someone loves you they will struggle and eventually find the line. It didn't happen to me, but I was a witness.

My guess is that as human beings we all have a little glare of hope somewhere to be with the one we love, some people believe they have found and lost the person and some are still looking ... There is one thing I have come to realize though, the transition from a friend to a lover is strong, especially if you don't think of the fact that some day you'll have to walk all the way back!